I’m walking with my husband down 17th looking for a place to have drinks on Valentine’s Day. We find a place and get comfy in our seats. We notice to the right that a guy and girl are going at it, like I think he was stimulating her under the table. The weird thing was, I was fascinated, I got turned on and I liked watching. Normally this kind of PDA is over the line, but it’s almost like on this day everyone gets to play a wild card. This brings two questions: How can I try this without being exposed? And how far is too far?
Sandra
I think if there were table cloths at this place one of them might have disappeared. Maybe part of the thrill you experienced in seeing this is that you’ve been included in an act that is usually done in private. You may have been aroused by the idea of you being that woman quivering under the table; it’s exciting to think about climaxing with the possibility of getting caught by others. I think we generally have a common courtesy to not go overboard with gushy, corny, overtly physical gestures in public, I mean a slap on the ass down the grocery store aisle is more expected than a motorboat amongst baked goods. Darker set places leave an element of mystery and privacy. Depending on how far you want to take things, wear an outfit that makes you feel sexy and don’t wear underwear. A fun idea is to have little dares or tasks ready for each other which you have to complete before moving on. Make sure to respect the people around you, if you’re ready to make a porn then do it at home, go only so far that you can leave with your dignity in case you make the spotlight.
I want to try a male enhancement supplement. I’ve read some things about Viagra and want to take a more natural route. I keep hearing about Hero tabs on the radio and wanted to know if they are any good. Can you help me out?
Brian
There is a surplus of male enhancing supplements on the market all claiming to be the best at making you big, getting you hard, helping you last longer and increasing testosterone production. Created for men suffering from erectile dysfunction and pre-mature ejaculation, guys of all ages can guiltlessly indulge in a trial enhancement. Hero Tabs’ main ingredient is watermelon skin extract which contains high amounts of citrulline, an amino acid that converts into arginine in the body and helps stimulate more blood flow. I asked a volunteer to try and rate Hero Tabs against another all natural supplement you can find at your local sex shop called Forta. Developed in New Zealand and manufactured in Canada, Forta is priced at approximately $70 for a package of 10 and Hero Tabs are approximately $50 for 10. Everyone reacts differently, so the experiment is very subjective; and with the chance to try Hero Tabs for free, why not? The volunteer rated Forta with the best results, noting that he lasted longer and noticed a greater difference in stamina and size.I’m starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me. I have the urge to masturbate all the time. It never affected my relationships, however it was never this bad. I am wondering how much is considered too much? Is it wrong that during work and school I feel the need to go to the bathroom and release my tensions? I don’t have a boyfriend right now, but I don’t want this to get any worse and hurt a future relationship.
Denise
Denise, my little diddling friend, all is not lost yet. I don’t think there is a set number where this goes from healthy to obsessive. If these urges are constantly interfering with your daily activities and obligations then you may be showing signs of compulsive masturbation. My question to you is when you get these urges is it a physical sign (tingles, throbbing in the genital area) or is it psychological (fantasies, thoughts)? The reason I ask is because there is something out there called PGAD (Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder) but this is an extreme case where the genitals don’t seem to come down from their horny high even after multiple orgasms are reached.
If you can still function day to day and you just like to get off, I don’t see the problem to be honest. Stimulation and orgasm fight stress and release “relaxing” hormones throughout the body, as well as have many other health benefits. There is nothing wrong with going to the bathroom to have some alone time. I actually endorse and encourage all women to have something that I call my happy purse. All you need is a sample size bottle of lube and a waterproof mini bullet (with backup batteries)– you never know when the urge will strike and everyone deserves to smile everyday. There is nothing wrong with a small intermission while laying in the tanning bed.
I am seeing this guy who is really great and sweet and pretty much the whole package for me, but it’s been almost six months and even after dropping the cues or trying to suggest while he goes down on me what I like he still has yet to make me cum orally. I understand that some women have trouble coming for different reasons, but I can guarantee I’m ready to let him. I was hoping you could maybe just give a couple tips that I can let him read when I hand him the paper.
Laura
A book that is great to read for this is Art of Oral Sex: Bring your partner to new heights of Pleasure, by Ian and Alicia Denchasy. Maybe just reading some intimate dirty stories may be helpful, like, Tasting Her: Oral Sex Stories, from Cleis Press that are all from a male point of view. But here are a few classic moves sex therapist Anne Hooper thinks may help him get started:
Tongue Twirler: twirling your tongue in soft movements right on top of the clitoris.
Firm Circles: Just as it says, make your tongue firm and move in a circular motion around the head of the clitoris.
Butterfly Flick: Flicking your tongue from side to side directly underneath the clitoris.
French Lapping: Using the broad blade of your tongue moving in a swirling motion between the clitoris and the vaginal opening.
These are a couple starter ideas, but every woman is different and none of these may do it for you. He needs to be open minded and listen to what makes you hot. Happy practicing!